What an obnoxious reply. What they said was almost precisely what I would have said. Someone went to get someone else's opinion after you told them what to do? We all deal with that. People didn't immediately silence when you peeped in a meeting? Happens to everyone (indeed, capturing attention in a meeting is a difficult skill that most -- including most males -- don't have. Despite being extremely avoidant in my youth, somehow I gathered the skills such that I almost always end up dominating, to the point of feeling guilty afterwards).

Life is unfair sometimes (and others it is simply fair and we are unwilling to accept it). Attributing that to fundamental grievances isn't necessarily useful.

And it is bullshit to simply assume that is sexism. It may be sexism, but it might not. And from an anecdote perspective I think back through my career and many of the most powerful, final-word people I've worked with were women.